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What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

From mother-in-law meltdowns to guests causing a scene on the dance floor, weddings are full of unforgettable moments—and sometimes, outright chaos!

In this episode, Christa sits down with TikTok creator and former event planner Lucette Brown, the creative force behind the viral skits at "Events and Affairs." Lucette shares her journey from behind-the-scenes wedding planning to creating hilarious content inspired by the quirky and dramatic world of weddings.

Tune in as they chat about cultural differences in wedding traditions, hilarious stories that inspired Lucette’s skits, and tips for keeping the dance floor packed. Whether you’re planning your big day or just love a good laugh, this episode will have you hooked!

Listen now and prepare for a fun dive into the world of wedding chaos and creativity.

Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

  • Lucette’s transition from event planning to creating viral TikTok skits.
  • Hilarious and jaw-dropping mother-in-law stories, including one with armed security!
  • Differences between Australian and American wedding traditions.
  • Tips for keeping the dance floor packed at weddings.
  • The rise of cocktail-style receptions and their benefits.
  • How family dynamics can shape—and sometimes derail—a wedding day.
  • The importance of staying true to your vision for your wedding.

About Lucette

Lucette Brown is a marketing professional with over 15 years of experience in the industry, focusing on digital and interactive channels. She has worked with senior staff members to achieve record sales, company growth, and strategic objectives. Lucette has extensive experience in wedding and event planning, which she translates into creative content through her TikTok and Instagram account.

She also has training from Second City and iO Theater in Chicago, where she developed her storytelling skills. Currently based in Australia, Lucette continues to work in marketing and create content about the wedding and events industry.

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Christa Innis: Hi guys. Welcome back to another episode of here comes the drama, the podcast that dives into chaos, hilarity, and unforgettable moments of weddings and events. I'm your host, Christa Innis from Party Planning by Christa. And today's episode is packed with juicy stories and hot takes that you won't want to miss.

And I cannot wait because today's episode, I have Lucette here from Events and Affairs on social media. She was actually in the industry for about 13 years, the general of a wedding and event company. Um, All over Melbourne, she worked at so many different venues and she turned those stories into skits, very similar to what I do on social media.

And she actually also lived in Chicago for under a year in 2016, where she studied at second city. So she was really good at acting. And so it kind of all came full circle and she creates these. Hilarious and very drama filled skits. And, it was so fun having her on the podcast and sharing her hot takes and just wait until you hear her mother in law story.

My jaw honestly dropped when I heard it. so we had a lot of fun chatting and it was so great connecting with her after seeing her content for so long. So without further ado, here is my interview with Lucette. Enjoy. Hi, Lucette. Thank you so much for joining me today. I'm so happy and excited to talk to you. after seeing your videos, I feel like I know you are. No, Part of your story. . Little part of me. Yeah. Lots, 

Lucette Brown: lots of characters, which I kind of like . 

Christa Innis: Yeah. I'm riding in the same boat with you. It's fun to play characters because you can like.

Act certain ways, and yeah. it's like your safe space. Exactly. And you are in Australia right now, so what's the time difference? I don't even 

Lucette Brown: It's one o'clock on the 5th of December, so Thursday. Thursday, one o'clock. Okay. 

Christa Innis: Okay. I'm glad we found a time that worked out for us. Well, I'm so excited to have you.

I'm so excited to have you here. Like I said, I feel like we're very, similar in what we do on social media. So I, had to have you on. I know when I posted about, um, doing a podcast. So many people tagged you because they just love your content. So before we get started, yeah, that was so cool.

And so before we get started, can you share a little bit about yourself and then how you got involved in making content and so much more? 

Lucette Brown: Yeah, so, I got started in the industry longer ago now, but I was in the industry for about 13 years. and then I had my daughter who's now three and it just work life balance didn't quite align, with it at the time.

So I've since kind of left the industry. it was probably, I think it's seven months ago now. I decided to. Make a TikTok skit. the idea behind Events and Affairs has been there since 2016 when I lived in Chicago. and I went to like Second City and Iowa Theater and kind of came up with the concept, which was like a TV series, I suppose, and created the characters.

So it has just been sitting there to do something with it. And then I finally got the courage to make a TikTok and I was like, if people like it, they like it. If they don't, I'll just make it for me. And, yeah, next is, I suppose, history. 

Christa Innis: I love that. That's the best way to do it. Someone was just asking me recently about TikTok, and I was like, at some point you have to make the jump, and just be like, you know what, I'm gonna do it and not care what people think.

 same thing, if they watch it and they like it, cool, that's awesome. If they don't, then it was fun for me to experiment with, you know? That's awesome. 

Lucette Brown: A hundred percent. And I think it was just like a fun, creative outlet that I was like, I'll just do it. And yeah. Thankfully, it seems people are enjoying it.

So yeah. People 

Christa Innis: love the skits. They love those skits. 

Lucette Brown: Mm, it's fun as you would know, there's so many stories in the industry and so many, moments that you do kind of experience . 

Christa Innis: Exactly, yeah, definitely. So talking about like chaotic moments and hot topics, Let's hear any crazy stories that you have because people love to listen for those crazy stories. So what's probably one of the craziest or outlandish things that you either saw or heard before? 

Lucette Brown: so you would know, There are a lot. but the one that always springs to mind whenever this question is asked is the mother in law who had security at her daughter's wedding.

 so she did ask for arm security, in Australia, especially like Melbourne, it's just not a thing. It was a big, no, absolutely not. so yeah, she wanted to have security at her wedding. obviously that raised alarm bells for us and we were like, why is she wanting security for your wedding?

 it turns out that she was, bit of an attention seeker. there wasn't any kind of reason why she would want them. And the more we got to know the couple and the family, were okay with that, what they were telling us. so yeah, it was her ex husband was bringing his new girlfriend and she didn't like that.

 So she wanted security, on the day. And then she also came dressed head to toe in like a white, very bridal suit and had her own flowers. 

Christa Innis: Okay. So it just like starts bad and keeps getting worse. Yeah. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. So, and then. Yeah, left, probably like an hour into the wedding. 

Christa Innis: Wait, and then she left early too?

So she just wanted to make this like grand appearance, make it all about her and then be like, Peace, I'm out. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah, I'm out. 

Christa Innis: So, and what was the audience waiting for? 

Lucette Brown: And it was like, so awkward. Yeah. So she said that she needed to be protected, from like certain family members and stuff, which like we said, we were like, why?

 it's alarming for us, but yeah, they assured us that it was literally just her wanting to create the day about her, which she did cause it was very hard to miss her kind of walking around the venue with these two security guards always just hovering behind her. 

Christa Innis: Wait, so, okay, so these security guards are then like following her to protect her and was the bride okay with it?

She was like, okay fine, like we'll let you have this. 

Lucette Brown: the bride was kind of like,whatever, like, it is what it is. The husband was not, I think his exact words were like, you do not feed them. They do not get drinks. I don't care. Like we did not pay for them to be here. it was very awkward.

As soon as she left and they left, it was a different wedding. the stress had gone. It was carefree. Everyone was relaxed and enjoying themselves. But yeah, while she was there, it was tense. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. I can only imagine. These stories are just like, the stories that people send me are always just so shocking because I've only seen some or heard some like in person.

I haven't. witness something completely crazy. So whenever I just hear that, I'm like, Oh my gosh, that's insane. And then just to leave early your own daughter's wedding's like, okay. Yeah, 

Lucette Brown: and then so many people are like, Oh, there would have to be a reason why. And then after kind of, yeah, meeting her, meeting the family, it was kind of very evident that she just wanted the attention, especially coming dressed head to toe in a white bridal suit with flowers.

Christa Innis: Wow. And your own flowers. Unreal. Oh my gosh. I want to jump into some wedding hot takes and I was kind of thinking it'd be interesting to know too, I hear a lot of times, like people comment, like differences between countries and customs when it comes to weddings. Yeah. So I'm curious, like,Are there any major differences you see between American weddings and Australian weddings? 

Lucette Brown: I think the biggest thing, and especially like when people comment, is probably the timings of weddings. I don't know if it's necessarily like an American thing, but like in Australia, our weddings typically have like a four o'clock arrival time, 4.

30 ceremony. They typically wrap up around when you're at like a licensed venue. So I do know a lot people are kind of always shocked. By the timings of our weddings. and I think another one and correct me if I'm wrong, but, we're big on kind of cocktail or feasting style weddings.

We don't kind of necessarily do the alternate drop anymore. so that's probably something that, yeah, like I said, it's been what, three years since I've been in the industry and things change very frequently. So that was probably my experience then. but yeah, definitely now it's, cocktail style weddings is definitely favored here at some venues.

People are going to attack me for that being like, no, they're not. 

Christa Innis: Right. Well, it's funny because I know it's even in the comments, like I'll post something about a skit about like no kids at a wedding. And people kind of, Oh, that's so American. But then I feel from other countries saying Oh no, we do it here.

 I feel like it's just every country has their own. Maybe areas of the country where they do things certain ways or families do things certain ways, no matter what country. cause you're talking about timing in Australia. our wedding was at 3 30 PM. And it went until midnight, until midnight, maybe it was 11.

So like when I hear that, I was like, Oh, that was like our timing. a lot of weddings I do go to aren't until like 5. So it's kind of all over the place. 

Lucette Brown: And then like some countries are like, we start them at, a. m. and don't wrap up until like 3 a. m. And I'm like, I could 

Christa Innis: cope.

That sounds exhausting. Yeah, I know. a friend of mine, her, yeah, her husband is from Spain. And so they've gone to a lot of weddings in Spain. And she said that they party until like Sometimes like five o'clock in the morning. just you telling me that sounds so exhausting. My wedding night, we were just ready for bed at like midnight.

Lucette Brown: It's a long day. I, hightailed out of my, I was standing there and I was like, I'm done. can I go? I'm like, am I like, I think it was like half an hour left, we got married overseas and I was just like, I'm just going to go back to Our room. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. You're like, thanks. Had fun.

Bye guys. Yeah. So let's jump into some wedding hot takes. I just want to hear your thoughts on these, it's hot takes on wedding culture. So what is one wedding tradition that you secretly hate? 

Lucette Brown: Oh, I'm probably going to get a lot of hype for this, but wedding famous. 

Christa Innis: Okay. why is that?

Lucette Brown: you don't have personal take on it. And I think because especially like when you work so many weddings, you just see so many left, people don't take them. They're just kind of left behind and then they're just thrown away. you think about how much thought effort and money goes into those gifts.

Plus, I think now with a price tag that people pay for weddings, the price they're paying per person to be there, I don't think they need a thank you gift. That's just my personal opinion. and I do know, especially in Australia, or in Melbourne, at the venues I've worked at. Uh, I need to be clear, but, the favors have kind of, are being phased out, like it's very rare that you will have wedding favors at weddings now, purely I think because of the amount of money that couples are spending, but yeah, that's probably my number one.

Christa Innis: no, and I don't think that's a completely unpopular take or anything because I've been hearing that more more even at our own wedding it was like We ended up doing decks of cards with like a label cuz I was like, oh people are cards But we did have so many left over and so It was one of those things where I was like, okay, now we just have cards that, like, we can use, I definitely am opinionated when it comes to, like, favors, because it's like, yeah, It's an extra cost that you, don't always think about and then you spend all this time researching for a favor and it's like, does it really matter?

Do most people notice it? Probably not.

Lucette Brown: yeah, that's probably my one. Everyone's like, what's the one thing you can get rid of? I'm like, wedding favors. You're like, 

Christa Innis: done. 

Lucette Brown: Do it. Take them up a list. 

Christa Innis: Okay, if you could reinvent one aspect of weddings to make them more fun or meaningful, what would you do? Or what would it be?

Lucette Brown: I suppose getting people on the dance floor, I don't know how you would reinvent that or get that, but like, I feel like the weddings that, have all that fun and everything is when everyone's on the dance floor, they're dancing, they're singing, they're laughing.

 and I think sometimes it's hard for certain people to probably Get on the dance floor. So maybe, I don't know if you can remove, I don't know, stigma around dancing or whatever, but, yeah, if that answers the question. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, no, I totally agree with that. because if you ever go to a wedding where like the dance floor is empty, you're like, it time to go? there's a vibe off here. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. It just, 

Christa Innis: yeah, 

Lucette Brown: changes the whole feel of the wedding. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. some of the best weddings I've been to is more dancing all night long, the DJ's playing really great music, and the dance floor is, like, packed. that's what you want, I feel

Lucette Brown: I was just gonna say for, our wedding, we flew, a musician that I worked with, quite frequently. I flew him over for our wedding. 'cause I was just like, it is so important for us to have good music and to have that dance floor packed. And it was like, I don't think there was ever a moment where.

People weren't dancing, but yeah, like I said, just, it kind of makes a wedding. 

Christa Innis: That's amazing. Two things that I've seen at weddings that I thought was really, really awesome was one, and it's one of my best friend's wedding. She, I don't know how she thought of this or she heard it somewhere. They only played the most popular parts of songs.

So like they would play like up until a really exciting point. And then when it would kind of slow down, They would swap it. So people were like running out to the dance floor. Yeah. And so That was one of the weddings where literally it was packed, we never stopped dancing because it was like, really popular songs and we would get to like a verse repeating or something, they would like, switch it over and we were like, oh, we can't miss this song too!

Lucette Brown: Yeah, see, it's funny you say that, because the musician we flew over, he does this thing where he's mashed up all the songs, and like, he's singing and then he like, moves into a different song, and you're like, Hang on a second. And then you're like, wait. And then like, one of our favorite things about, the musician we had is that he did something kind of similar.

 and it does, like you said, cause everyone's just like, wait, how are we into this song now? Yeah. 

Christa Innis: Like you don't even notice you're like starting to sing to it. You don't even realize you're like already a part of the next song. I love that. Yeah. That's a great idea. The other thing I saw, which we ended up using at our wedding when we saw it, They say everyone on the dance floor because the photographer wants a group photo.

And so you get everyone on the dance floor and just posing and then they start playing right when it's done. They start playing a song so everyone's there and then they start kind of dancing. So that's a clever 

Lucette Brown: way to get everyone there. Cause I think that's a hard thing is to get everyone on the dance floor.

 once you've got people, they tend not to like, there's a group that don't leave the dance floor, but you've got to get them to the dance floor, which can sometimes be hard. 

Christa Innis: That's cause that's always the challenge. Yeah. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. 

Christa Innis: Awesome. I love it. Okay. This next segment is called pick a side wedding drama debates.

So I started sharing on social media. Having people share with me their unpopular opinions when it comes to weddings and events. I'm going to read it and then pick a side on the debate. This person said, I feel like the vows should always be private before the ceremony. What's your take on that?

Lucette Brown: I think it's coupled dependent. I know some friends who have done that and they haven't had vows at their wedding because they were like, no, it's too personal. And they want it to just be between and then people love to kind of have that in front of everyone to kind of share stories and stuff and have that in their vows and kind of have that as like a public declaration.

So. I know it's sitting on the fence, but I do think couple specific. I don't think there's probably a one size shoe fits all in that scenario. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, totally agree with you. you make it your own. if you're not comfortable, be private. That's absolutely fine. 

 funny because I did a skit. someone sent me their story about, a mother in law sneaking in to see the private vows with her future husband. so I did a skit about it. And people were like mad in their comments.

They were like, if you want private vows, why are you even getting married? Why are you even having a wedding? people were taking it so extreme and it's like, they still have a ceremony. They still do all the normal stuff. You probably wouldn't realize that they're missing.

Lucette Brown: And, oh my gosh, I still see people comment it like, oh my gosh, why would you want to do private vows? come on, we're all different. A hundred percent. That's always my big thing. It'sjust everyone's going to have an opinion no matter you so you might as well just do what you want because you're never going to make everyone happy.

You're going to annoy someone. 

Christa Innis: Exactly. 

this next one, I don't like the idea of a first look. husband had to wait to see me until I came down the aisle. 

Lucette Brown: I like a first look, so I don't know, I'm kind of for them, I've seen them being done really lovely, and I think the good thing with a first look is that often then you get the bridal party and you do all those photos before the ceremony, so then you're not kind of taken off to get all those photos, so.

do personally like a first look. I didn't do one for my wedding because it wasn't for me. I kind of wanted that aisle moment personally. I do like the first look because yeah, I just, I don't know. It's just kind of nice to have just the photographer and the wedding people there and kind of have that intimate moment.

 with everyone. And then it's always the fun, stressful part, trying to keep them hidden while the guests are arriving. 

Christa Innis: Hide them away. Yeah, I feel like that's definitely like a newer thing that's becoming more and more common. I didn't do it either, but a few of my friends have done it for scheduling purposes and all of that.

 just making sure like They were able to fit photos out, but always knew I wanted to like have that aisle moment, but again, I wanted the aisle moment. 

Lucette Brown: However, in that specific moment, when it hit me, I kind of regretted my decision because I was like, Oh my God, now everyone's going to be looking at me.

Christa Innis: You're like, wait a second. Yeah. 

Lucette Brown: I kind of regret it a bit, but I'm happy I had it. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh my gosh. Okay. Last one. having to invite people because their family, but okay, I haven't spoken to them in five years.

Lucette Brown: my big thing is that if we hadn't seen them, obviously there are certain cases where this doesn't fall in line, but if I hadn't spoken or seen you in six months, you won't come into my wedding. That's kind of how we did it. because like, obviously like if people are interstate or anything like that, so it's a little different, but yeah, my take is, you don't get a seat at my table purely because you're family, which I know is controversial, but.

Christa Innis: Yeah. 

Lucette Brown: That's my take. 

Christa Innis: I know. I feel like that's one of those things, too, that's changed with generations, because I feel like our generation's better at saying no, that doesn't make sense to have great aunt so and so that I literally have never spoken to or has never met my husband, you know?

Yeah, literally. Yeah. I feel like the previous generation, it was like to call, come together and every person in the town, it doesn't make sense anymore. No. Well, 

Lucette Brown: like, and you know, I mean, if you were paying like 10 a person, then maybe, but I mean, people are paying 200 plus now.

 the venue I just worked at, some of our weddings were 350, 400 per person. if I'm paying that much for you to come, you need to be important to me. there's none of this, or, you know, you have some certain title. So therefore you get to come. 

Christa Innis: Exactly. And my thing, too, is I'm such an introvert, which I know is going to sound funny to a lot of people.

 You have to remember, I film at home in a bathroom. It's myself. And I'm good at one on ones, but I wanted people there that I was comfortable with and I had a relationship with I was like, if I have like a 500 person wedding, I'm going to feel so uncomfortable.

I don't want to have to like introduce myself to someone at the wedding, have an awkward conversation. When 

Lucette Brown: you're looking back at wedding photos, you've got like all like plus ones, you've got all these like people where you're like. I don't know who that is. 

Christa Innis: Exactly! Yeah, and if it's like a new girlfriend or boyfriend of a cousin or something that you've never met and then they break up a week later, you're like, why are they in this family photo?

Yeah, literally. Yeah, yeah, okay. So we're kind of on the same page with a lot of that stuff. now we're going to get to this wedding submission story. So I'm going to read this story and we'll just react as it comes through. I've not read it yet. my husband actually helps me put together show notes.

So he puts them in here. So we'll react together. Oh, so lovely. Okay, here we go. Well, where to start? My mother, who I cut out of my life 15 years ago, stole our wedding money. Oh, that's a great start. refused to let my husband.

She just goes right into it. refused to let my husband's great grandma park close to the venue. She was in a walker. So she'd a park on the other side of the street. She screamed at me in the middle of the dance floor, promised to help pay for my flowers. the mix for the booze and hotel room a month before she said she could not pay for it.

She spent money on decorations and stuff that I never wanted for the wedding. Okay. I have to stop right there because. You cut this person out 15 years ago, and now she's back. Why is she coming to your wedding? 

Lucette Brown: Yes, that was my thought 

Christa Innis: and I would never trust someone that all of a sudden came back. I would never trust them to pay for things.

I'd be like, I don't want your money. I don't want you to pay for it. 

Lucette Brown: Nope. Don't want your money, don't want your opinion, don't want your advice. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, that would be like a last minute invite if, I was feeling friendly, I think. 

Lucette Brown: I was feeling the love. 

Christa Innis: Exactly. Okay, let's see what she said next. Husband and I just wanted a simple ceremony, then a party.

She got angry and called me every name in the book. Oh my gosh. when I asked my dad and stepmom for help saying they should be giving her money, instead of me. Wait, what? I'm What? Why? I'm shocked by this story. feel like there's a lot. Missing did she come back in, right when they got engaged or yeah, because I feel like she's a background 

Lucette Brown: story.

Christa Innis: Yeah, I'm like, I feel like the mom's coming in full force. Like, okay, cool. I'm back in your life after not being in your life for 15 years. Yeah, this is what I need. Give me that money for. The wedding or whatever. she said, okay. She also said that she would help find people to set up the midnight lunch, lied and then said she did.

But when it came time for help, she yelled at me and said, my husband's family was selfish and they should just do it. By the way, his family cooked and served our whole meal. It was their gift and they wanted to enjoy the wedding, which they never got to Because my mother was selfish. she then started tearing down the decorations at 9pm and people thought the wedding was over and started to leave.

 why does this woman have so much free range? after not doing the things she promised, and then she's coming in and She needs a wedding 

Lucette Brown: redo. 

Christa Innis: Yes! 

Lucette Brown: She needs to get rid of that one. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. I think at a point where it's like We keep them as a distant relative at this point, maybe.

Yeah, 

Lucette Brown: yeah. They don't come to the wedding, let alone have a say in the wedding. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. I feel like so many times, like, brides want to just, like, keep the peace and just, like, you know, have everyone get along. It would

Lucette Brown: And it would be hard, especially with a mom, because I feel like You would want your mom to be at your wedding, so you'd probably like that little girl, and you would be like, No, it'll be fine.

She'll be different. It'll be fine. And then, as history serves, it never usually is. 

Christa Innis: I know. I always say like, if you have a gut feeling about it, it's probably right. And I hate that. I hate that for this bride too. Cause like you said, she was probably just like the little girl being excited. Like mom's coming back.

She really wants to be involved and then it's just one thing after another. it's so easy to like read from our perspective and be like, why? But like, from her, it's like, it's her mom and you want them to be a part of it. 

Lucette Brown: And I think that's the hard thing with weddings too. Like so many people have those reactions, but it's like, you've got to understand that you are dealing with.

Families, emotions, usually like years and years or generational trauma. there's so much that goes into it. And a lot of the time it's just people trying to have the idea of what they want and hope for that, but most of the time. It doesn't like the mother in law with her arm security and her white dress.

Christa Innis: Yes. Like that. Oh my gosh. They just, it never ends. The craziness. it says she got mad at me when she saw me have a shot with the bridal party. and she got mad that I asked my dad to walk me down the aisle and said it should have been one of my brothers. So this really sounds like, It was maybe a nasty divorce or something.

And, because why would you suggest, if the dad is still in your daughter's life, why would you suggest a brother over her father? So it sounds like some, I don't know, something bad happened and now she's taking it out on the father or something. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. I feel like there's a lot of history in this particular story.

Christa Innis: Yeah. There usually is. Yeah, I know. I feel like a lot of these stories, if there was a previous divorce or something and like one of the parents got remarried, there's a lot of awkwardness or tension. and especially again, if she was estranged for 15 years, I'm sure she missed out on a lot and there's some insecurity there.

 yeah, 

Lucette Brown: probably trying 

Christa Innis: to storm in 

Lucette Brown: and make her place. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, definitely. my 

 Ex father in law. because he treated my children badly, almost punched my dad because he saw him take bar money, but we had asked him to and put it in a safe place. Oh my gosh. This just keeps getting crazier. So I don't know if it's ex father in law, like she was married before this wedding, or if she's talking about.

A wedding where she's now divorced, because it doesn't specify, it just says the father in law was horrible. So her 

Lucette Brown: new husband's father? Trying to connect the dots. 

Christa Innis: No, I think, so I'm thinking she's telling the story like it happened and they're already divorced.

 I just saw a glimpse of the next part and I don't even know if I can say this. Oh, good. we had random people just show up that we didn't know, but my brother in law did, because they were his coworkers. They started a fight with my ex brother in law because one of them kissed my ex sister in law.

This is like, So many X's in this story. I'm trying to like, yeah, we need like a map of this. 

Lucette Brown: I was going to say, I need like a mind map with like, all right, this person is connected to this one. 

Christa Innis: I know. I'm like trying to figure this all out. This bride has had one thing after the other, this poor bride, like literally starts with family drama, then starts with father in law, ex father in law, Random people showing up that her brother in law invited.

 this is why elopements 

Lucette Brown: exist 

Christa Innis: or 

Lucette Brown: micro weddings. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Little small intimate days. if you have any inclination that things are going to happen like this, because I always hear from people, they're like, Oh, all your wedding drama stories make me afraid to get married. And I'm like. I would say, and you might have a different opinion about this, but I would say 75 percent of the weddings have no drama, like drama, like this craziness.

I'm sure they all have little dramas here and there, but most of them do not have like these crazy big things that you're going to notice when you are a guest at a wedding. 

Lucette Brown: No. 

Christa Innis: but the drama that is bad, people want to tell and they want to talk about it because it's just like, how did this happen or why did this happen?

So if you're like, And it's usually, 

Lucette Brown: like, so astronomical that it's just, ridiculous, the drama that does come out of these weddings, it's just usually, what you're saying, but majority don't, but the ones that do is just huge. 

Christa Innis: And it's just, yeah, and like, it's one thing after the other, so I always tell people, I'm like, I don't want to, like, freak you out about getting married, because if you are, like, excited, and you have, a good, like, Family unit and you're going to have a good time.

There's nothing to be worried about. Like, I didn't have drama at my wedding. it happens all the time where it's like drama free. But if you have red flags, a hundred percent, it could happen. 

Lucette Brown: And to like, so many people like, Oh, after watching your skits, like, I'm so glad, like I'm not getting married.

I'm like, no, no, no, no. if you want to get married, get married. But like the weddings where everything goes right. Well, they're not going to make good skits. Yeah. Exactly. It's gonna be very boring. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Like, you wouldn't watch a movie where everything was just, perfect and happy all the time.

 you want some drama. Yeah, exactly. That's how we do it. yeah. Okay. This last part is where I was like, I don't know. I might have to get bleeped. my ex father in law caught my ex brother in law and ex sister in law having sex in the bathroom. I had to tell them to get out because they were caught.

Yeah.

Lucette Brown: So, wait, not siblings? 

Christa Innis: No, I read it as, her husband's, brother and wife. That's how I read it. 

Lucette Brown: Oh, okay. You're like, what's What's happened with this family? I'm 

Christa Innis: like, wait, what is happening? It was already bad, but 

Lucette Brown: Okay, 

Christa Innis: I'm glad we clarified. That's how I read it. I'm just hoping that's what it was. 

Lucette Brown: Yes, let's go with that. let's go with that one because 

Christa Innis: it's better. Yeah, that's way better. Still bad, but way better. yeah, she said there was so much more, but I'll leave it with all of this to start.

That is enough for like a full on novel. I can't believe there's more. Geez. 

Lucette Brown: Yep. I feel like she needs to do like a, I don't know, wedding redo or I don't know, go overseas, get away from all of that. All of that. 

Christa Innis: Cause that drama, that's immediate family drama where that's going to follow you.

 if they were to do that at her best to follow her with that. so I'm wondering if it was, it sounds like it was like she's divorced from this family. Yeah. Definitely. That's what I'm guessing. maybe she realized all this, like Yeah, well, she, 

Lucette Brown: yeah, ex father in law and 

Christa Innis: Yeah, I'm guessing.

Well, I'm glad she was able to get away from that family. But the mom stuff, that's a whole other thing. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Hopefully, either they've reconciled for a good reason, or they, uh, separated. 

Christa Innis: Separated. Yeah. Like, they always say, too, like, weddings bring out, True colors of people, whether that's friends or family.

And so unfortunately you'll either be closer to some people or you'll just distance yourself from some people, which 

Lucette Brown: is 

Christa Innis: unfortunate and fortunate. 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Yeah. A hundred percent. And your types of people who aren't comfortable with not having the attention on them. Mm. They're the ones that are gonna create the amount of drama for you because they will naturally just need that attention.

 I've found. with the weddings where I've experienced that, it is, yeah, the people who, and you can just kind of tell they're not probably necessarily like subconsciously doing it, but they're the ones that can't not handle having the attention on them. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Yeah. I definitely see that as a common theme in the stories that are sent to me.

It's 

Lucette Brown: yeah. 

Yeah. Yeah. A lot of times they're harmless where it's like, they're just doing little things, but then it's starts adding up. Or it can be your story where the mother comes in and has the bridal suit, and that was like, and the tree, like that was. the last kind of thing that she did, all throughout, there were little bits that she would do she would call us up and all that kind of stuff.

Like there was just all these little moments and then yeah, that last on the day, it was just, yeah, was interesting. It was like, cause the couple was so lovely and I just felt so bad that's will forever also be at their wedding. Yeah. and something that people will remember because like I said, you couldn't not, she made it very well known that she had her security.

 Yeah. I remember trying to like sneakily, like take a photo to like send to my sister. Cause I was just like, you will not believe what is happening right now. 

Christa Innis: It's insane. You're like, you'll only believe it if I have a picture because it's so insane. 

Lucette Brown: And I think because of how she looked, like she looked like a bride.

 if you didn't know who the bride was, you would walk into this wedding and think she was the bride. 

Christa Innis: And she knew exactly what she was doing. 

Lucette Brown: Oh, she, a 

Christa Innis: hundred percent. That like makes my blood boil because it's like, you can't let your daughter have this one day. Just make it about her, please. And 

Lucette Brown: yeah, you hear like sisters and cousins and that, but like when you mother in law or the mother or like the father, it's just like, Oh, come on.

Like just. Let them have their day. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. you are the parent. let's be a little Literally. Yeah. Literally. You are the parent. Oh my gosh. Okay. So I know we're getting towards the end of time. I want to end this with, it's called a weekly confessions game, where I'm going to read people's confessions that they send me on Instagram, and I'm going to ask you to rate it from one One means mild tea and ten is absolute chaos.

So here we go. Number one is my significant other and I were engaged for six years before we decided to secretly elope a month ago.

Lucette Brown: Two? I don't know.

I'm like, wow, that's your decision. That's your life. So good for you, I suppose, if that's how you want to do it. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Yeah. I say go 

Lucette Brown: for it. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Right. Okay. I feel like that's, To secretly do it. I mean, I'd be wanting to tell people, but I think that's awesome. Let's see. Okay. My mother in law forgot the rings on purpose on our wedding day and hopes her son would change his mind

Lucette Brown: She needs to get a new mother in law. I'd say that's, see it's so hard to, because knowing what I know with what has happened at weddings, I know of much worse things that have happened, but like a normal scale, that's pretty high, that would be like, a seven or eight.

Yeah. So maybe I'll do a normal scale, not my scale. You're just so used to it. You're like, it doesn't even phase 

Christa Innis: you anymore. Perfect. 

Lucette Brown: yeah, that sounds right. 

Christa Innis: That checks all the boxes. Yeah, 

Lucette Brown: yeah. 

Christa Innis: my thought is, when I first see this, I wonder if all along, the mother in law was playing that she was a fan of her.

Cause I'm like, you knew the mother in law didn't like you or was acting some way, I would never in a million years trust the mother in law to have the rings. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, that's, yeah, like, why does she have the rings? Yeah, that was my first thought. I was like, why are we giving the mother in law rings?

Lucette Brown: I would be like, you can't have any responsibility today because I don't trust you. Unless it was just sneaky, Yeah, unless she like, actually stole them. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, oh yeah, like got them from someone, took them from the best man, who's I'll just hold on to these. Yeah, which, 

Lucette Brown: then that does bump it up a notch.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I did read a story once where the, Yeah. mother in law wanted to, it was either the mother in law or the grandma, wanted to hold on to the ring for like a photo and then forgot where she put them. So they didn't have it for the ceremony, and they had to Did they find them though? I think they ended up finding it later, like, it fell on the ground somewhere.

 it was so traumatic, because everyone's like, ready for pictures, and we're just like, we can't find it anywhere. And it was like, the grandma, or like, mother in law, that was like, I need to use it for a photo for something, and yeah, never found it until after the ceremony. 

Lucette Brown: I was going to say like, never give anyone the rings, but I'm like looking back and I'm like, we gave our photographer the rings to get like the photos with it beforehand.

And I'm like, Oh God, it could so easily happen. 

Christa Innis: I know you would hope a photographer would be like really careful or like, do it so often that they're like, okay, this is gold. I can't lose this literally gold. okay, last one, not sending out save the dates because I don't want people to save the date.

Lucette Brown: My question would be why are they invited? 

Christa Innis: I know if everyone could see my face, I'm just like, 

Lucette Brown: what? Why? If you don't want them to save the date, then don't invite them. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. okay. I'm wondering if it's one of those where like her parents are pushing her to have a big wedding and she doesn't want a wedding.

Yeah. Or is she not excited to get married? 

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Because I feel like if you don't want people to save the date, well then, don't do it. yeah. It's so odd. Like if you don't want people to have that, then yeah, they shouldn't be coming to the wedding. 

Christa Innis: That would be my first clue that you don't want to get married or you don't want the wedding you're having.

If you don't want people to come, then Like you said, don't invite them. Just do a small wedding. You don't, no one has to have a big wedding. 

Lucette Brown: literally. You can literally do whatever you want. Yeah. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. It's crazy. The number of people, and I'm sure you have stories too, but it's a crazy number of people that are like, not threatened, but bribed in some way by their parents, like, Oh, if you do this, I've heard of parents that are like, maybe they were raised a certain religion.

If you don't get married in this church, we're not going to pay for it. Or if you don't invite so and so we're not going to do this. it's crazy. The number of like, they hold it over their head. Like if you don't do it this way. Oh, 

Lucette Brown: a hundred percent. we even had it, to some degree with our wedding, because we had a destination wedding, people expected certain things because we had a destination wedding.

 and my kind of thing was don't have to come 

Christa Innis: yeah, 

Lucette Brown: you're more than welcome to not buy the ticket and fly over. if you choose to, well, then you're here for us. Yeah. Have a great holiday. Have a fun day. But yeah, we did like a cocktail style wedding and that was a bit of an issue.

Yeah. Because people were like, if you're flying people over, they need to have like a seated meal. And I was like, they'll probably actually end up with more food how we're doing it. cause again, I very particular. Again, I flew out the company I used to work for. I flew them over to do my wedding.

So I'm just like, they're going to end up with more food this way. But yeah, I feel like there's always going to be opinions no matter what you do. 

Christa Innis: Oh yeah. I never get having opinions or like getting mad about how someone else choosing to do their wedding. Yeah.

I've seen comments about destination weddings. It's like, Oh, it's ridiculous. It's so expensive. you don't have to go. You can just say, no, this is how the couple wants to do their wedding. Yeah. And 

Lucette Brown: they're like, well, you know, you should have a wedding here. And I'm like, well, no, that's what you want to do.

So that's what you should do. You want to go overseas. So we're going to do that you figure it out. Yeah. Figure it out. Come, don't come, have fun. Yeah, exactly. 

Christa Innis: this was awesome. Thank you so much for coming on. I loved hearing your hot takes and you have so many great stories. Can you tell everybody where they can follow your stories and hear more of your craziness and your awesome skits?

Lucette Brown: Yes, so, the handles is just events and affairs. I think if you do just search loose set. I do sometimes come up, but I think there's also some other creators, with my name too. But yeah, events and affairs is how you'll find me, 

Christa Innis: even 

Lucette Brown: though my tagline is weddings and events. So it's confusing. 

Christa Innis: No, it totally, it totally works.

Cause it's, it makes sense. I think it still will come up with the name and, uh,

Lucette Brown: you do amazing skits. Everyone go check out Lucette. Thank you so much for coming on. It was so great meeting you officially hearing all your hot takes.

No, thank you so much for having me too. And like I said, likewise, your skits and stories are amazing. I've become a fan of Sloan. kind of got into that, into that, into that drama. so yeah, no, it's, really cool to kind of meet and connect with, people who similar things. So been a lot of fun.

Christa Innis: Love 

Lucette Brown: it.

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